January 27th, 2010 by Collin Canright | Filed under Psychology.

Revelating is the third stage in Dr. Judith Wright’s Evolating model for personal transformation. The model itself described how people change. Not just learning and growing, but “discontinuous change or transformation to a more advanced stage of being.”

My leadership colleagues and I have been working through the model this week at Men’s Leadership Development Week at the Wright Leadership Institute. My post yesterday on engagement covered the second stage in the Evolating model.

My experience with revelating was quite profound. In refining the definition this morning, I focused on a personal example to help refine an operational definition of revolating, which in essence is comprehending the psychological matrix in which one lives. It involves seeing how you work and understanding your operating system, but further seeing how your current way of being creates blocks that prevent growth, change, and transformation.

In my case, one of the blocks is self pity. I caught myself feeling very tired and discouraged as I replayed an email on an important sale I lost. That loss was headed toward defining the whole day as terrible. It was not by any means, and I noticed that tendency in my psychology.

Noticing that part of the matrix presents an opportunity for a shift. I decided I did not have any time to feel sorry for myself and did not. I’m still upset by the loss, but by not putting the energy into feeling sorry for myself or making an entire day a loss, I have been able to see how I can prevent that kind of loss in the future–by using as a model an excellent and highly engaged meeting with another client just before I received the email about the loss.

I had further extended my revelating experience by uncovering a long-standing and deeply held belief that I do not measure up, no matter how hard I try. I won’t go into the details on that one now, but it was a profound experience because it brought to my consciousness a belief that has formed my perception of myself and the world for many many years. Through that initial conscious, however, the hold of  the belief unlocks and change is possible.

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